On the other hand, marriage is a rite of passage for those who are religious; baptism, communion, marriage and then death. For some people, it is about showing your commitment to one person in front of God. It has been proven that those who are married have healthier lifestyles and live longer, and there are financial benefits to marriage in the form of tax allowances and pensions. When faced with a terminal diagnosis, for couples who are not married, it is often a decision that they are eager to consider, over and above the decisions about the proposed treatment. For those patients in critical care, it may be considered following discussions around the futility of treatment.
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In his book, Chris writes about finding out on Easter Sunday that his wife Angela had terminal colon cancer. She died 17 months later at age 32, leaving behind her grieving husband and two young children. It Is Well is a story of grief, love, loss, and faith. I sat with Angela as much as I could, holding her hand, playing music and praying many prayers, yet I would find myself feeling very restless and anxious. I had discerned our decision to move Angela home with hospice care with the help of very knowledgeable friends who walked me through the process of making this decision. I would rethink my decisions and question myself. So in my restlessness and uneasiness I would pace, find things to do and find myself getting frustrated. When I finally surrendered to this reality, that my only job was to just be present to her, I felt an incredible peace.
On October 19, , I had no idea what I was committing to. And how could I? I was 22 and just graduated from college. I said yes to love, with all its glories and struggles. Certainly, we could have just lived together and forgone marriage, which would have seemed like the easier thing to do. If we always hold back a piece of ourselves, then we will never be vulnerable enough to know what it means to love. Love always carries an element of risk. The abiding commitment of marriage is what makes it unique among all other relationships. The indissolubility of marriage has to be the most misunderstood part of the union.
Today, personalized wedding vows are becoming more and more popular, with couples wanting to pay tribute to their unique relationship using their own words instead of something that's been said before and maybe impress their guests in the process. But plenty of people still use traditional vows — either in whole, in part, or adapting some portion of them. Standard wedding vows have also given us some of our most memorable pop culture moments, like the immortal "I, Ross, Take Thee, Rachel" Friends scene. In the United States, the traditional Catholic wedding ceremony finds many couples regardless of how religious they really are in their day-to-day lives reciting the time-honored spiel up at the altar.